Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Excuses and Expectations Destroyed by This 80-Year Old

Excuses, Destroyed.

Expectations, Destroyed.

And I'm Crying:

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You can see this woman and her partner being laughed at, and patronized

by the judges and the audience.

Then the whole thing changes, and by the time she speaks near the end of the video,

I was crying happy, but empathetic tears.

So the question is- Who is Doubting YOU?

and what's worse- when other people do it., or when YOU do it to yourself?

YOU CAN GO FOR IT- I believe in you!!

Thursday, April 10, 2014

Fame, Acting, and Porn

Some people want Fame, so they become Actors, thinking that it leads to fame.
I might.

But I have a better idea for them...

Some people think that if they just get famous, then all of their problems would be solved:
They'd Be Rich
People Would Like Them
And They'd Finally Get The Respect They Deserve.

So, they want to become an Actor.

They think, "hey, if I become a successful actor, then I'll be famous!". They are wrong of course, because there are many non-famous actors.
And these people are cluttering up the audition rooms with their stupidity.
Instead, I think if you wanna be famous, be a porn star.

That's a lot of work too, but at least you have a better shot at it- you can go directly to the consumer that way too!
Laurence Fishburne's Daughter went this route, and it didn't work out all that well for her... yet- but then again so did Kim Kardashian.
You tell me- what do YOU think?

I had a chat with someone today, and I had to get this off my chest- let me know what you think.

Monday, April 07, 2014

The Brown Eye Blue Eye Experiment

The Brown Eye Blue Eye Experiment

I spend a lot of energy making white people feel comfortable around me.

There, I said it. I have been keeping this a secret for a while now, but I realized it recently when I was in the elevator with someone who was obviously nervous about being alone with me. Now, I was in an elevator in my own building, where I have lived my entire life.


I saw her nervousness, and in a higher-than-my-normal-voice pitch, made a joke, self-deprecated (word?), smiled, and giggled.

I believe in doing this anyway, just to make people's day better, but I noticed that day where it came from.

I was worried for her, and wanted her to feel better.

I could be wrong, and I wish I could say that she was nervous because she found me SO attractive. That's probably a better way to imagine it.

But either way, I did it because I was confident that she was nervous because I am a man of color.

And then here's the part that hurt.

My beautiful wife is pregnant right now, and I had the thought that I hope our child looks more like her (white), so that I don't have to teach that skill to my boy.

It's a good skill; how to make other people feel comfortable in your presence, but I just think he'd be better off without needing it the way feel I do.

That's a pretty heavy confession, and kinda sad, and I choked up a bit when I told Laura that.

She did too.

And even weirder is that for all of those feelings that I have, I'm relatively light-skinned, the vast majority of my friends are white, and for most of my life, I'm the "whitest" of my non-white friends.

To the Latinos I'm pretty watered-down, and to the blacks, I'm kind of an honorary member.

So, if I were REALLY dark, I would probably be even funnier and friendlier!

Or not, and after a while you just say "fuck it", and give into the expectations.

And the girl who leaves in the video isn't just showing her ability to remove the stigma, but also the ability to just leave "the system" that berates her and hates her...

Which is a decision a lot of my people of color make.

But it's ALWAYS a person's individual choice, and always a matter of personal responsibility.

So I'm going to keep on smiling, and not worry about WHY someone needs me to.

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