Friday, March 06, 2015

How NOT To Talk To An Actor

You're probably expecting some list of "Do it this way..." or "That was nice, but I wish you had.."

But this post is not about that at all. I just wanted you to know.

I recently became a parent, and so I've been reading all sorts of articles, books, and blogs about how to be a better one.

Some people think that's dumb.

But for me, I've noticed that anything I excel in- and it is a great many things- I have done well not because I follow other people's advice, but because I get enough advice that I get to CHOOSE from the options.
In other words, if I just go with what I know, then my choices are limited.

Also, by being a "generalist", I get to incorporate ideas from all sorts of places, and allow my brain to make connections....

I'll get to where ACTORS come into this in a minute, and it's not what you think.

So the other day, I read an article called How Not To Talk To Your Children, and it was all about the random, unfettered praise some people give their kids. Not in the "You're making kids soft" way, I mean the stuff that EVERYONE thinks is a good idea:

Like saying "You're smart!"

I mean, who can argue with that, right?

Well, it turns out that telling kids they are Smart after they do something means that the only way for them to go from there is DUMB.

So many people avoid trying anything they know they won't succeed at.

This is VERY true.

I swear, I'm getting to actors... just hold on!

In my life, I was labeled smart pretty early, and in Junior High school, I was in the "Special Progress" class, and we were kinda isolated from the rest of the school... whom we all knew were dummies. Not our fault- it was kind of an understood thing among us.

Then I went to The Bronx High School Of Science, where being "smart" was the pre-requisite for admission.

I've been around the label "smart" for a long time.

Anyway, I can say with absolute confidence that many of the people I know are PETRIFIED of being "found out" as NOT being as smart as they are assumed to be.

Myself included.

Do you see where I'm going yet with Acting?

So, the study goes on to show how these kids who are labeled "smart" and praised as "smart" when they get a simple test correct are DE-MOTIVATED from trying anything that may be a challenge for them.

However, kids who are praised for their EFFORT are not only emotionally boosted, they are MOTIVATED to try a harder task. You see, we all like praise, so if we can get it through trying something HARD we'll get it.
NOW comes the acting part.

For Actors, this is a one-two punch.

Everyone says that the acting business is tough, and we actors are constantly praised by other people for "trying to be an actor", and "good for you!" for going for our dreams, and blah, blah, blah. And if we're not being as successful as Tom Hanks, then "at least we're trying".

So we get praised for that.

Then there's when we actually do perform... we get APPLAUSE.  I mean, for someone who is feeling unworthy of attention (an almost cliche trait of an actor), that mass praising is an addictive, irresistible drug.

But then- the praise that probably harms and destroys more careers than any is:
"You're so talented"
Talent may kill your career
Because now- we should be rich and famous actors based on our TALENT as opposed to because we WORKED hard at it.

And I don't just mean a performance, I mean being in the business.

Kind of like "If you're talented, you don't need to promote yourself- your TALENT will make you stand out" kind of idea.

It even works to REMOVE our pride when we DO get a job because as we know- "Only the talentless actually WORK" becase they are "promoting", and "networking", and doing whatever "FALSE" things they have to do because their TALENT didn't get them there.

Do you understand what I'm saying here?

Believing in your "TALENT" might be exactly what will prevent you from using it!

"Unrecognized Genius" is a cliche, and the more UNrecognized we can be- then the MORE genius we must have, right?

So, aside from the praise- it's easier to be "Talented", but never be in a position to have that questioned.

From my own life, I am MUCH more attracted to parts that I feel are "within my wheelhouse" of skills. Now, of course that's a good business strategy in general (Tom Hanks will NEVER play an action hero vigilante), but maybe I'm also trying to avoid being BAD and "untalented" in my performances.

Fortunately, I've realized that it's always best to be the WORST in any group, so you can learn the most. How do we teach this to younger kids though? Especially those who show a "Talent" for something....

What about you?

Did this make sense to anyone else, or did I connect too many ideas?

Thursday, February 26, 2015

How Actors and Artists Can Use Their Blog To Get Work

I made this powerpoint in October... of 2013... and I never made the video!

So, when I found this, I figured that people would benefit from it, so I
made this super quick. Tell me what you think!

The Kalatu Blogging platform starts with a 21-Day Blogging Challenge,
it's fun, but you obviously don't havr to do it- check it out here-

So, Actors have learned that having websites are good as digital business cards, but what your blog can be is a sort of magazine about YOU as an actor, or as a person.

An Actor can use their blog to get work because part of out business is "getting known",
and that is exactly what a blog is for. Artists use their bogs all the time to show their fans their new work, so why not YOU?

Check out the Kalatu Blog-

And if you'd like to Build Your Acting Business without a day job, go to

Monday, February 16, 2015

How To Write A Kid's Book, and Make It A Best-Seller

Every once in a while, I get a call from someone who wants to write a book. Sometimes it's fiction, sometimes it's non-fiction, but my favorite is when they ask about my children's books.

I wrote and published "What Kind Of Penguin Are You" and "What Kind Of Owl Are You" not too long ago, and I thought I would pass along a few ideas.

Know this: Parents want to entertain and make their kids happy! Now that I am a father, I will buy and read ANY book that seems half-way decent if it will make my kid smile!

If your intention is to create smiles, then you really can't go too wrong. When I wrote those books, I imagined that I was reading them aloud, because that's probably how they'll be read. 

Is it entertaining on it's own? 

What about the visuals? My books visuals are extremely simple, but other people make very elaborate pictures to bring kids into the world of their books. 

Not many people know this, but my Penguin book was written AND published in a 24-hour period, and has been selling ever since.If you set things up in a smart way, your book can have a long cycle.

HOWEVER, the biggest thing I learned is that there is a difference between writing a book, and publishing and selling a book, and I had to learn that VERY IMPORTANT lesson from someone else.

I learned how to do all of this (and many other things) from my secret weapon- Jay Boyer.

His company JJ Fast publishes many kinds of books, and I am actually an excellent customer of theirs and have learned a lot from them. 

They are doing a children's book publishing webinar this week, and I am very excited to add some extra tips to my knowledge:

I learned a number of great things from Jay:
  1. How to find ideas for kids books
  2. Where I can find illustrators for cheap
  3. When is a good time to sell children's books
  4. Why Children's Kindle books can be a steady source of income
If you want to learn how to be a children's book author, I suggest you get on his webinar before it fills up. He always provides great info, and I can't recommend him and his company enough.

See you on the webinar!

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