I am writing this on Christmas Day. It's been rolling around in my head, and I wanted to be sure to write this out...
A lot of people are looking for a partner, and some of them have it all backwards. They often ask "Do they like me?" they also look for a certain "resume". If they can find someone with the right resume, who also likes them- BINGO! They go for it.
Here's what I mean:
Imagine a girl who is very polite, she's tidy, she's sexy. She always wears heels, works out, and takes care of herself. She's "nice" too.
These are fantastic lines on a resume.
Many guys would see these traits and say "Damn, that's the girl for me!" and then twist and turn themselves hoping to get her to like them.
This is resume seeking.
Women do this even more; they look for a guy who makes a certain income, drives a kind of car, lives a particular lifestyle. Hopefully, he's "nice" too... Or at least polite.
Often, a woman will find herself dating a guy with a great resume, but saying to herself "I SHOULD like him..." and years later she realizes that she doesn't.
I don't think there's anything wrong with having a list of things you want in a partner, but what if you started with different list?
Do you like YOURSELF when you're with them?
What parts of yourself do they bring out in you?
No one wants to be chosen solely for their resume; they want their partner to love THE REST OF THEM too- foibles, imperfections, hurts, and fears.
So, maybe instead of polishing up the resume, why not work on the actual INTERVIEW part?